Sombreness, mourning or homesickness

There can be all kinds of reasons for gloom and sorrow. Think for example of grief at the loss of a loved one, or grief at a disease (of yourself or others), leaving a relationship, loneliness or homesickness. Often this will resolve itself with time, but sometimes it bothers you so much that it will impair you so much that you can no longer continue alone. Psycheheal helps you with processing and adaptating to the changed circumstances.

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          I have experienced that what no one should ever have to experience at such a young age. I lost my sister due to an accident whilst she was traveling abroad. I remember the state of disbelieve and unacceptance I was in during the first couple of days and weeks. The people close to me advised me to see a psychologist to help me overcome and deal with the pain of the tragedy. At first, I thought it wouldn’t help me and I would just waste my time. However, I must say when I meet Marjan I found a person, which I could trust with any feeling and worry I had on my chest. At the beginning I was sceptical, but once I got comfortable with Marjan I really felt like things were becoming more bearable. Her treatment is different than others. She didn’t prescribe me anything to take, she rather chose a different more humane path, which was to talk about all the things that bother, scare and frustrate me. That way she got to known what really lies beyond all my problems to give me a proper advice on things. The stability and forward-looking approach she gave me on life and how life really works, gave me the strength to continue living. There were dark times, where I thought that life is not worth living with the continuous pain without any sight of improvement. But after my second/third session with Marjan the excitement to come and speak to her grew with every visit. I felt relieved and the pan itself became more bearable, I personally think that acceptance is the wrong word due to the nature of her death, but Marjan’s treatment gave me the hope that I had been waiting for after such an event. I can highly recommend her treatment for any student or person who experience any similar situation and where the mourning process feels like it never ends. Now I have reached the stage, where I can talk about my sister, look at pictures and still feel like the world is an okay place. The one thing that Marjan’s treatment and the whole tragedy taught me is that life is the most precious thing we have and that we only get one shot at it, therefore talk about what worries you and the situation will improve.

 

A German Student age 21 

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Depression

Sometimes, however, the reason for your somberness is not so clear. You can also feel flat rather than gloomy. As if you no longer feel anything.  It may be that you have a depressive disorder. Often there is some change in your eating and sleeping pattern, you worry a lot and struggle with question of purpose and meaning.  Also then you are welcome at Psycheheal for help. Would you like to find out more about this yourself or do you want to help yourself online? Then look up:

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http://www.depressiesteunpunt.com/html/zelftest2.html
https://www.lentis.nl/probleem/depressie/depressie-test/
https://www.lentis.nl/probleem/depressie/online-zelfhulp-depressie/

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For those interested, below a link to a newspaper article about homesickness among students, to which Psycheheal practitioner Marjan Krijgsveld contributed:

https://www.dvhn.nl/groningen/Studeren-en-op-kamers-de-tijd-van-je-leven-of-toch-niet-24200985.html